Coming home after a long day at school or work makes the prospect of stress relief with your partner something to drive faster for. Walking through the door, however, your ears are met by smooth techno, grunts and moans. Those amplified sounds can only mean one thing. Instead of waiting for you, your partner has decided to indulge himself with his fantasies and Internet sites.
At first, you are shocked by what you find — your partner in the midst of self-pleasure. But then you find that you are really pissed, especially when your partner informs you that he has nothing left to give you.
When you are alone in your bedroom at the age of 15, porn is one thing; you are only just figuring out what you are attracted to and how to act on it. However, now being a college student with the chance of getting a significant other that will complement your personality in more ways than one, why would you risk your relationship by continuing to indulge in your 15-year-old Playboy-inspired fantasies?
The explosion of the Internet has only brought more porn into our lives. Who isn’t tired of the pop-up ads advertising every kind of sex there is out there. As we grew up there was the one kid who had access to their brother’s Playboys or the stack of old videotapes, yet now with the Internet, free porn is just a click away. The result is people finding these portrayals believable and then losing interest in their own relationships because their partners are not quite as kinky as those people on the monitor.
Now to be fair, everyone who has ever been curious is not about to ruin their relationship with their significant other. There are those individuals that psychologists have called “recreational viewers†who watch porn as a distraction, and it has no effect on their relationship whatsoever.
However, a study done by Texas Christian University found that the more porn men watched, the more likely they were to describe women in a much more sexualized way and categorize them in the traditional gender roles. This is not the way women want to be regarded.
In a Time Magazine article called “The Porn Factor,†Mark Schwartz, director of the Masters and Johnson clinic in St. Louis, Mo., is quoted as saying “men become like computers, unable to be stimulated by the human beings beside them. The image of a lonely, isolated man masturbating to his computer is the Willy Loman metaphor of our decade.”
I find this portrayal exactly like the one I picture when I think of those who watch porn. Society views those people as unable to have a proper relationship. However, it can be said the society we live in is creating these people who can only get pleasure from themselves because their ideas of sexual encounters are so distorted that reality will never be enough.
No matter how popular porn is in the media, it can never really replace a good relationship. You will begin to believe porn can be real, and your partner will begin to look less attractive because he or she is not a professional porn star.
Now, some couples watch porn while together, and that is part of their relationship and works for them. However, pornography that is not condoned by your partner can only hurt your relationship and will leave you alone with no one but yourself and the Internet to blame.
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